No More Crying Over Spilled Milk

I know you've heard the saying, " No more crying over spilled milk..." If I can be honest I've cried over more spilled milk than a little bit, but I made a decision that I will NOT cry over pointless things anymore, because I am resting in the promises of God for my life, and I want you to do the exact same thing.

I was told growing up that big girls don't cry...

Lets be honest, if you are living in this world, you will cry. Some of those tears will come from happiness, joy, sadness, grief, etc. Ladies it's absolutely normal to cry, you're human, you have feelings, you're subject to your emotions, and it's more than okay. BUT that's not what this blog is about..

Life happens, I know. I. AM. A. LIVING. WITNESS...

The moral of this story is to get you understand that your time is so precious, and how many of us can look back on situations and honestly say, " I spent wayyyy to much time dwelling on that.." Now I'm not one of those, who believe that you have to let something go overnight, because I am a firm believer that healing takes time, however certain things we dwell on, aren't worth it. Okay let's talk...

So you find yourself trying to figure this thing called life out huh? And to be honest you cant seem to move on from your past.. Maybe you grew up in a single parent home, maybe you dropped out of school, maybe your first love crushed your heart, or maybe you just feel like God is so far from you, sis it's time to pick up the pieces and move forward. I was once that young lady that cried over spilled milk, constantly being a victim of my own circumstances because I was hopeless. I allowed myself to believe that my life served no purpose, and that I was just merely existing and not living, little did I know that God was shaping my entire life, even when I was crying over who left my life, what I did wrong, who was talking about me, why I wasn't in a different tax bracket, and why I hadn't fulfilled my purpose yet. I just couldn't wrap my mind around anything at that particular time in my life. One particular day I was listening to my favorite worship song, and something instantly clicked, " It's time to let it go." Something came over me, and I knew it was nothing but God.

He was saying," Listen daughter, I'm here for you, I've always been here. I never left, even when you drifted apart from me, I was still right by your side waiting for you to return. When you put people and things before me, I didn't count you out. When you cared more about who I had to remove, because they didn't serve your life purpose, and I had to protect you from them. How about the time when I allowed that job to take you through trials and tribulations to help you mature and grow because I was getting ready to open a greater door, but you was too busy worrying about the people and the test. Oh yea lets talk about the time you decided to date outside my will, and your heart was shattered, because you had to do things your way, but I wanted you to wait because the one I designed for you, is tailor made just for you, and will treat you like I desire for my daughters to be treated, that's why I wanted you to seek me, and focus on your purpose because I knew you wasn't ready. Oh daughter, let's talk about how I called you to be the leader in your family, so therefore you had to endure a lot of more pain, but all you did was complain, but it was serving purpose for your destiny, but you just couldn't see that. Lets make this the year that you just trust me,completely,I got you, I love you, it's all working together for your good, can you focus on me?

Together we are making the declaration that, " I will not cry over spilled milk." It happened, I can't change it, God allowed it to better me, therefore I'm moving forward. God has great plans for you, but you have to believe it enough to trust him and move forward.

-Tierra London

Dear Sis, I KNEW THERE WAS A REASON MY BLOG WAS POSTPONED...... Please read and share this:

I'm pretty sure by now you've heard the devastating news about the famous fashion designer Kate Spade, can we just take a moment to soak this tragedy in...

We must understand that depression is real. Silent struggles are real. Daily battles are real. PRIVATE PAIN is real. The complexity of keeping everything in, will eventually come to a boiling point, and what do you do, when you have had ENOUGH?

What do you do when you are TIRED? EXHAUSTED? FRUSTRATED?

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Dear Sis,

Life is not always easy, and yes I understand, it can be quite difficult to cope with at times. Life has its challenges, we grow weary, we sometimes want to give up, and sometimes we feel like we are all by ourselves, but know that you are NOT ALONE. There are people that God assigns to your life to help you navigate and get through the rough patches, the darkest moments, the times when your back is against the wall, and when you honestly feel like the devil is winning.(however we are aware that the enemy is deceitful, an accuser and a liar too) We as women have to become honest enough with God, ourselves, our inner circle, and know when its time to seek HELP! Pride has to die. Shame has to be buried. Guilt has to be put to death, because there will come a time, when you reach a breaking point, and you need to be willing to seek guidance, so that you wont become so overwhelmed that you allow the enemy to gain access to your life, and he begins to talk to you, and causes you to isolate yourself, so that he can fill you with lies. I want you to know that you are stronger than you think. I want you to know that there is a group of women that's rooting for you to make it. Someone is counting on you to make it to the finish line. Money can't solve everything.Pretending will not last long. Lying to yourself and the people that love you will never help. If you are in need of help,be honest today, there is so much greater on the flip side of all that you are facing right now. There are so many amazing things in store for you, if you just hold on. There is a beautiful rainbow ahead waiting for you, if you just endure just a little while longer. Our God is intentional, he knows how much your heart can take, he knows when you are on the edge of giving up, he knows when you have taken all that you can. Text someone, call someone, ask for prayer from your spiritual parents, or your prayer partners, seek Godly counsel, but whatever you do, don't give up, and don't throw in the towel. Sis, whatever you do, please understand that you don't have to go through it by yourself. I am here, for you. Someone is praying for you even right now. It will get better eventually. I can't tell you that it will get better tomorrow, but this I do know, God will never put more on you than you can bare. Lets do better by reaching out and checking on our people. We are better together.

Love always,

Tierra London

Scriptures to mediate on:

Psalms 119:28

Philippians 4:7

1 Peter 5:7

John 14:27

John 16:33

Psalms 28:7

Isaiah 40:28-31

Matthew 4:23

Mark 6:7

1 Corinthians 2:16

Ephesians 2:14-15

Jeremiah 1:12

Colossians 2:15

Proverbs 3:5-6

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Here are a few pictures from my recent Women's Brunch that will make you smile:

MR. WRONG.. " Me and Mr. Wrong get along so good, even though he breaks my heart so bad."- Mary J

If you knew how special you were to God, you would literally go through your phone right now and delete " Mr. Wrong", block him, and never look back again. If you could only see how he loves you so much, that he hates to see your heart broken, he despises your heart being stepped on and misused. If you could only see that you are deemed a the highest value you would NEVER settle for less than you deserve ever again. I only dream of you knowing that you are such a delicacy to God and that he wants you to be treated like a queen.

So very often we in this generation find ourselves in " situationships" where we actually try to force ourselves to believe that it's a real relationship and that God is in the midst. It's really interesting when we know that God has no parts and yet we will try to make it work.. NO not no more!

Listen, sis GOD DOES NOT OPERATE IN DYSFUNCTION!

If the relationship that you're in now is not flowing in the will of God, then 99.9% chances tell us that it's not ordained by God. So many times we as women think that we can change a man, we do not have the power to change anyone, only God can do that. It doesn't matter how pretty you are, how much money you make, how well you can cook, or how much you feed his flesh, it will not work if God is not in the midst. If you find yourself forcing it, stop. If you find yourself asking God over and over for a sign, after he has already given you 13multiple red flags, stop.

God will not bless what he has not ordained!

Mr. Right will come along, when you let go of what you had in mind and let God do the work. God has already chosen someone for you, but he will not send him because right now you will mishandle your blessing. How can he send the right one, when you are still entertaining the wrong one?

I've been there and it's not the easiest thing to do when you are so used to operating in dysfunction because you don't know what real love is, but when you release your expectations and trust God he will surely blow your mind. There is someone in store for you that is so special and just think, God created him for you. That's how awesome God is, he doesn't call us to do life alone, but sometimes we have to get it wrong in order to seek God on how to do it right. So even if you find yourself in a place right now, that you know God is not pleased with, ask him to help you let it go. Will it be easy? No! Will it be worth it? Absolutely!

God is going to do just what he has promised, but sis you have to be willing to do your part also.

1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 " Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous: love does not brag and is not arrogant, love does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth, bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."

Tierra London